OMG! OMG! OMG!
My brother is getting married this Saturday.
Tania is the flower girl (unfortunately, she came down with chicken pox on Monday).
Jason is the ring bearer (he had his tonsils removed exactly two weeks ago).
One thing I have never understood is why women act so surprised when they are proposed to. After all, if you are in a relationship, you must have some idea of where it is going. No?
When I asked my borther's girlfriend if she was surprised, she said "Very much so. It was totally unexpected."
I remember finding this odd 20+ years ago when watching America's Funniest Videos. Periodically, they would show clips of women who had been proposed to. I always thought their reactions were silly. After all, it is not like they won the lottery. They were in a relationship that presumably had a direction and purpose and, presumably, marriage was the expected outcome.
For the curious (and showing once again how different I am from others), Sofia is the only girlfriend I ever had and I made it clear to her at the outset that my intent was marriage. (Now, if only I could apply such focus and intent to the rest of my life.)
Tania is the flower girl (unfortunately, she came down with chicken pox on Monday).
Jason is the ring bearer (he had his tonsils removed exactly two weeks ago).
One thing I have never understood is why women act so surprised when they are proposed to. After all, if you are in a relationship, you must have some idea of where it is going. No?
When I asked my borther's girlfriend if she was surprised, she said "Very much so. It was totally unexpected."
I remember finding this odd 20+ years ago when watching America's Funniest Videos. Periodically, they would show clips of women who had been proposed to. I always thought their reactions were silly. After all, it is not like they won the lottery. They were in a relationship that presumably had a direction and purpose and, presumably, marriage was the expected outcome.
For the curious (and showing once again how different I am from others), Sofia is the only girlfriend I ever had and I made it clear to her at the outset that my intent was marriage. (Now, if only I could apply such focus and intent to the rest of my life.)
Comments
Yeah, I agree with you on this one. I don't think a proposal should be shocking or unexpected necessarily. But I do believe that a lot of that reaction is purely excitement that has been building up for a girl's entire life. So, even if she does/should see it coming, there is often some kind of crazy emotional release there.
Hope your kids are well and congrats to your brother and new sis in law.
Btw: What you are focused on, you get more of you know:-)
Richard: Have a great time and hope the kids are well!
barbara: I did misrepresent a bit, most of my male friends who are married, have had only one girlfriend as well, however, in their case, and most peoples' in general, the objective seems to be to get to the relationship stage, without thinking out the end game.
By the time of the wedding, her chicken pox was clearing up. The vesicles were drying and there were no new ones. A bit of foundation to help cover the red spots helped too (although, I have promised her to airbrush out all red spots form the photos - this is going to take time).
cavalock: we all had a great time. The only wedding I have been to that was better was my own (but, maybe I am a biased observer).
breal: I knew about a year in advance. People often have interesting emotional responses. I often find them odd because I keep expecting people to be more rational. Sometimes, I think people live fragile lives on the edge of insanity. Certainly, when I was going through my despondent period, I could sense I was very close to a precipice and wondered if most people lived the entire lives that way.
kaymac: my perspectives are never typical, but, you know what, they seem so-o-o-o normal to me.
rennyba: thank you.
ingrid: I have been missing you this long while. There is no question that there are many kinds of people and many reasons why things don't always work out.
A friend of mine was very dead set against marriage (his rationale was that 50% ended in divorce and he didn't want to be a statistic) - eventually, his girlfriend of 9 years left him. In another case, a friend of mine had been dating for 5 years, while he was not averse to marriage, it just did not occur to him during his relationship (eventually they did marry).
I think it is terrible for the child inside to be locked away. I often think peoples' inner child is far too often hurt and disappointed.
Under normal circumstances, people should behave ... erm ... normally - in a calm, well reasoned manner.
However, when they are "on the edge", they become irrational, small corrections suddenly become wild swings.
A good example for many people is threading a needle. A fairly hard task, but most people should have the eye/hand coordination to do it. The problem is that people start overcompensating and find it increasingly difficult to thread the needle. I am sure there is a term for this - which I can't remember at the moment.
Another example is walking a narrow beam - like a fence. If it is only one foot off the ground, most people can do it without losing balance. Take it up to 12 feet, even if the beam is wider, most people will find it harder to walk. We can posit that the consequences of failure are greater and we become more conscious of what we are doing. However, it does not alter the fact that we end up overcompensating and wildly sway to avoid falling.