Rebuttal

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As I wrote to my friend this morning, I have a new insight into what I wrote and blogged about yesterday. This is part of the content of that e-mail:

As I write this, I see why I wrote what I did yesterday – because, I was not communicating with you, I was simply writing to you. While communication requires the active participation of two people – it is not about sharing, it is about caring.

But, you know what? Caring is hard. It is easier to fall into a pattern of complaining about things, of exchanging lists of information without feeling and emotion.

A few weeks ago you shared with me the meaning of HELLO and I would like to share it back to you:

(H)ow are you?
(E)verything all right?
(L)ike to hear from you
(L)ove to see you soon!
(O)bviously, I miss you

Comments

buzybee said…
That's nice. :) Thanks for sharing that.
March 31, 2006 8:00 AM
Richard said…
You are welcome. Fortunately, I have good friends who keep me on my toes - too bad most of them are scattered all over the world. sigh.

e-mail is great for keeping in touch, but, unfortunately, it has killed my letter writing.
March 31, 2006 8:23 AM
Kay said…
I didnt really notice that the simple word HELLO could have a very deep meaning...so touched..

Thank you for sharing it Richard.

You should be grateful to have lots of good frens even if they r scattered all over the world. Unlike me, I could count my good friends with my fingers.

Just that I had a bad experience with 'good friends' before...so I try to limit my new friends now.
March 31, 2006 10:55 AM
Richard said…
I would never describe myself as having a lot of friends.

As a social person, I am pretty much a flop. This is not to say I don't have my moments, but ... compared to other people, I am no social butterfly.

I would say, that the few friends I do have, are good friends. But this is more to do with the way I make friends - slowly. I am very slow to call someone friend. I am not sure my way is necessarily a good way, but it seems to work for me.

I sometimes envy people who seem to easily fit into any social situation, who are popular and always in demand. I can't deny it would be nice to be popular.

Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter:
whoever finds one has found a treasure.
Faithful friends are beyond price;
no amount can balance their worth.
Faithful friends are life-saving medicine;
- Sir: 14-16
March 31, 2006 1:05 PM
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